Bullying
bul·ly1
ˈbo͝olē/
verb
gerund or present participle: bullying
use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants.
1.social.
2.physical.
3.emotional
4.cyber
No one deserves to be the victim and no one deserves to be bullied-
No one deserves to be the victim and no one deserves to be bullied-
Stand out and speak up.
Bullying is constantly being brought to my attention. Whether it is kids I see, rumors I hear or words being spread. Bullying is everywhere and is not something to be taken lightly.
Bullying is constantly being brought to my attention. Whether it is kids I see, rumors I hear or words being spread. Bullying is everywhere and is not something to be taken lightly.
I have always been very aware of this subject and it is dear to my heart. I have dealt, seen and been around bullying for many years. It is something that, if I can help, I will. I do not care what the reason is, who it is toward or what is being said. bullying is NOT okay, in any way, shape or form.
Many people, young or old, are afraid to have a voice. They are afraid to be shut down, made fun of or embarrassed. Weather it may be in school, at work or even at home. Finding yourself and finding your voice can take some time, but having a voice can lead to transcendence. Your opinions, thoughts and words are yours and no one can take that from you. So why use this freedom of speech for evil, when you can use it for the greater good? No one deserves to be bullied and no one deserves to be the victim, so why is this still happening in this world today?
Many people, young or old, are afraid to have a voice. They are afraid to be shut down, made fun of or embarrassed. Weather it may be in school, at work or even at home. Finding yourself and finding your voice can take some time, but having a voice can lead to transcendence. Your opinions, thoughts and words are yours and no one can take that from you. So why use this freedom of speech for evil, when you can use it for the greater good? No one deserves to be bullied and no one deserves to be the victim, so why is this still happening in this world today?
Bullying can happen anywhere. In school, on the streets, at home and even in relationships. But somewhere I just recently found to be a big target for bullying is online. I knew cyber bullying existed, but I did not know this continued into adulthood. Let alone, motherhood. Being new into this whole "instagram world" I was unaware of what it consisted of. I made an account to reach out and meet mothers, connect and create friendships. Which I did. But I am now starting to see all the animosity, anger and injustice behind some of these accounts.
I grew up and live in a pretty small town. I have seen and heard mean things being said. Not only to me, but to others around me as well. But out of all the words I've heard- I have never seen harsher things being said than what I see online. To see mothers treat other mothers that way, it is so sad. Someone you do not know and have never met, to speak so cruelly to them, it is absurd. It is not only one person being mean to another, but an entire group of people ganging up on one individual. It does not make it any different to bully online. Bullying is bullying.
I just recently spoke to a mother and she expressed to me that she is afraid to be on instagram because of all of the bullying she sees. This is not something that is funny, or a joke. It is cyber bullying and it is NOT OKAY. No one should be afraid of someone else, let alone other mothers.
When experiencing and coming across all of this I had a few thoughts:
An immediate reaction of frustration. WHY does this still happen today, why are mothers doing this and why are adults doing this. We are the ones that should be setting an example for our children and for the ones around us.
Second thought being, it is all talk. Anybody can be tough behind a screen, which then brought back frustration. When hearing or seeing all of these mean words being said, there is nothing you can do beside talk back, which is adding fuel to the fire and giving the bully the attention they want.
And my final thoughts were- sympathy for these women. Why else would you bully or put someone down besides wanting to feel better about yourself. To make yourself seem higher, cooler and better than others. You are simply degrading someone else to make the impression that you are better than others, or to make yourself feel better about yourself. Experiencing this online, I can only help to think that these women are missing something, and using negative energy towards others to bring that "lack of" back into their life. It is not fair to others, but you just have to remember, they are focused on you, while you are focused on you. There must be something pretty special about the one being bullied to be focused on that much.
This goes for anyone bullying: In person, online or in relationships- The one bullying you is the lost one. They are the ones unhappy with something in their lives or in themselves and taking it out on you. All you can do is know that you are better than that and simply say a prayer for them.
To the younger generation reading this- If you have been bullied, you know how it feels, and it doesn't feel good. Do not bring that sadness to others lives, because you never know what else is going on in their lives at that time. And to the older generation reading this- You will be raising your children to act as you do. You will be experiencing "bullying" a few years down the road. Do you want your children to be bullied or the be the bully? Because I know I don't. I know I will teach my son compassion and love. I will teach him to treat everybody equally and I will teach him to treat others how he would like to be treated.
As I said before, you do not know what that person is going through. I have seen many horrible things in life and I have seen children go through more in their childhood then what anyone should ever endure. And to experience that at home and then deal with hatred in school or online- whatever your escape may be, and have to deal with more evil, it can bring you to your breaking point. Words CAN kill. Think before you speak. Coming from the great Arab proverb: "Is it true, is it kind and is it necessary."
How to enter to win BOTH amazing prizes-
A sweet Pit bull reminding you everyday that they are the only "bullies" that should exist. Hang it on your wall or your children's wall as a daily reminder to be kind.
Simply follow @taliahandlerart on instagram
AND follow @weestructed on instagram for the amazing "Bullying is junk" sizes 2t-adult XL that sold out and just got back in stock!
and hashtag your favorite photo with #nobullybabe
& that's it! Cant wait to see your photos, we will pick a winner by the end of the week.
we can all speak together as one, and bring bullying to an end.
If you would like to subscribe to my blog, and you are on your mobile device, click "View web version" (at bottom of the blog) and at the top right corner it says "follow by email" enter your email there and you will be notified when new blogs are posted!
I just recently spoke to a mother and she expressed to me that she is afraid to be on instagram because of all of the bullying she sees. This is not something that is funny, or a joke. It is cyber bullying and it is NOT OKAY. No one should be afraid of someone else, let alone other mothers.
When experiencing and coming across all of this I had a few thoughts:
An immediate reaction of frustration. WHY does this still happen today, why are mothers doing this and why are adults doing this. We are the ones that should be setting an example for our children and for the ones around us.
Second thought being, it is all talk. Anybody can be tough behind a screen, which then brought back frustration. When hearing or seeing all of these mean words being said, there is nothing you can do beside talk back, which is adding fuel to the fire and giving the bully the attention they want.
And my final thoughts were- sympathy for these women. Why else would you bully or put someone down besides wanting to feel better about yourself. To make yourself seem higher, cooler and better than others. You are simply degrading someone else to make the impression that you are better than others, or to make yourself feel better about yourself. Experiencing this online, I can only help to think that these women are missing something, and using negative energy towards others to bring that "lack of" back into their life. It is not fair to others, but you just have to remember, they are focused on you, while you are focused on you. There must be something pretty special about the one being bullied to be focused on that much.
This goes for anyone bullying: In person, online or in relationships- The one bullying you is the lost one. They are the ones unhappy with something in their lives or in themselves and taking it out on you. All you can do is know that you are better than that and simply say a prayer for them.
To the younger generation reading this- If you have been bullied, you know how it feels, and it doesn't feel good. Do not bring that sadness to others lives, because you never know what else is going on in their lives at that time. And to the older generation reading this- You will be raising your children to act as you do. You will be experiencing "bullying" a few years down the road. Do you want your children to be bullied or the be the bully? Because I know I don't. I know I will teach my son compassion and love. I will teach him to treat everybody equally and I will teach him to treat others how he would like to be treated.
As I said before, you do not know what that person is going through. I have seen many horrible things in life and I have seen children go through more in their childhood then what anyone should ever endure. And to experience that at home and then deal with hatred in school or online- whatever your escape may be, and have to deal with more evil, it can bring you to your breaking point. Words CAN kill. Think before you speak. Coming from the great Arab proverb: "Is it true, is it kind and is it necessary."
How to enter to win BOTH amazing prizes-
A sweet Pit bull reminding you everyday that they are the only "bullies" that should exist. Hang it on your wall or your children's wall as a daily reminder to be kind.
Simply follow @taliahandlerart on instagram
AND follow @weestructed on instagram for the amazing "Bullying is junk" sizes 2t-adult XL that sold out and just got back in stock!
& that's it! Cant wait to see your photos, we will pick a winner by the end of the week.
we can all speak together as one, and bring bullying to an end.
If you would like to subscribe to my blog, and you are on your mobile device, click "View web version" (at bottom of the blog) and at the top right corner it says "follow by email" enter your email there and you will be notified when new blogs are posted!
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